When you do Good, Good comes back to you.

What do you call the moments where we keep on bumping on the same thing over and over again?

I keep searching for the right term. Serendipity? no nope. Deja Vu? Quite like it, but not.

Well anyway, if you happen to know such term, let me know.

It just happened to me.

These past days I kept on bumping into that message, When you do good, Good comes back to you.

In 2 days ago, my previous manager answered to my question: "whenever I am stuck, at wits end, I will pray to God. And I am a firm believer that we need to constantly do good, do charitable things, be good to everyone, spoil your parents, siblings, family ... and by that, we will have all the support needed in this life. Somehow, when I am on trouble, rescue or idea just came out of nowhere". My question to the person was: "how do you manage stress, how do you cope with overload?"

The answer gripped me. For me, you do good because you do good, no ulterior motive. If I do good hoping that I will receive something in return, my doing is not sincere. Just as God is doing good to us, whether we return it back at Him or not -- we need to be like that to others. 

Then yesterday, I came across that phrase in linkedin, an article about it - When you Do Good, Good comes Back To you. 

So I told myself: what does this mean? what does God wants to say to me?

Reading the article, and having thought about it, and asking God about it, here's what I concluded:

- That we need to do good for the sake of the other people we are helping, not for the sake of us (so that we got blessed, so that we will receive back good things in life). In Phoebe Buffay's term "unselfish good deeds"

- However, we should realise, God takes into account all our good deeds. He will reward us, in His own way and terms. I believe, that is why my ex-manager keep receiving back goodness in life.

- When we do good to others, do that and quickly forget it. Do not remember what we had give, do not count it. That is the art of giving.

- When we receive goodness, receive it, and remember the good-feeling we experience. Remember this when next time, others need the same goodness from us.

Hope you are blessed with this writing.

OXOX,

KataBeni

 COVID

A scary word.

On December 19, who would've thought 2020 will be gloomy for the world. 

Sudden loss. Death, wealth, job ... people grief over sudden loss.

I thought I got 2020 figure out, well planned --- thought so many people in this world too.

Interesting. Albeit we understand that this worldly life is all but certainty, still we are drop dead with the unplanned COVID.

We are in this together, hoping we will all enter into the finish line of this pandemic period, safe and sound, together with our loved ones, family, and friends.

 Covid has taught so many lesson for life, and I would like to carve it here:

- that no fix plan, there is always the X factor. Plan your life bullet proof water tight, but be prepare for some flexibility.

- Learn to manage stress. An X factor may affect so many things, life is all but certainty. We need to stand over our emotion.

- In all difficulties, lies opportunities. Covid gives the opportunity of working from home. With the commuting out, WFH allows more time spent with husband, with the family, more time to do sport, to take care of your personal life. 

- Life will ends for everybody, eventually. Be kind, it is not forever, he/she is not forever. Be Kind.

Bye bye Covid period. Don't wanna see you again.

- BeniTheLearner -

Consistency

In between the long pause from December to today, July 2020, I learned lots of lesson.

Life -- within, and outside of me ... were crazy!

Outside? the world caught Corona Virus 19. It changes everything, everyone. Nothing and no one excluded.

Within? Failure happen (with the baby program, marital quarrel, etc), many disappointments ... out of sloppy decision, greedy ambition... these.. mixed with immaturity, brings a sorrowful heart and grumbling spirit.

After weeks experiencing those turmoil, I do realise, that it all goes back to my attitude on life and my maturity. Life is full of ups and down, if we let our peace and joy goes ups and down depend on the occurrence of our life, we will be as volatile.

It is either to change, and keep growing in Love, or to stay bitter.

I got back up. I realise, having a good mindset and a heart set to God, must be kept in consistency. I must continually work on it, consistently. 

If not --- setbacks will come, and soon I am at a place where I do not want, thinking: 

how the hell did I got here?

Life is a journey, keep developing a consistent habit of good lifestyle and good mindset, and peace + joy will remain during the journey, no matter what.

So it's been quite some time, where I consistently (ok, admit it, there were days where I skip):

- Sleep well

- Get up early, pray, exercise

- Consistently use & do the to do list in every area: personal life, household, work

- Have a devotional time with husband

- Read and ponder on the Bible

- Write the diary

- Learn by either read, watch or listen to good books, youtube video, or podcast.

This is my journey of life.

XOXO,

Beni on reflection.