My List of 25 Cool Things to Spent 2010 With…

1. On interacting with others, try to always remember Maya Angelou’s words, she said:

I’ve learn that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but PEOPLE WILL NEVER FORGET HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL added with (jungto??) Dalai Lama’s words of wisdom: If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them.

2. Define love with your own definition on your own dictionary of life…
3. Learn not to judge ...just love people…don’t add judgments…
4. Learn grammar and its boring rules…
5. Learn how to put a perfect line of liquid eye liner in a single-fast-strike…
6. Learn that nothing is ever as straightforward as it appears…
7. Learn that there is no testimony without a test…
8. Read the Bible…and lots of books of any kind… read magazines…read newspapers…just read!
9. Eat healthy food most of the time, and junk food once in a while…
10. Have fun and hangout with people from different backgrounds/ vision/whatsoever…It’s amazing to know how much we can learn from different people…
11. Spent more time with children …why?? Mostly…they’re genuine, they have no motif, they love people just the way they are, they teach things like trusting and sharing, they don’t fill their precious time thinking what other people think about them or how much calories consumed in a piece of cake, they prefer a Rp 500,00 money then a Rp 100,000,00 money only because they like the monkey in Rp 500 (it looks like you…so they say) and…they laugh a lot ...
12. Remember that…God is good, God is love. He loves you…that’s it…there’s nothing you could do about it... there’s nothing you can do to change it.
13. Make great and big plans…work hard at them…but always trust them in God’s arm…there’s a saying that when people make plans, God laugh…
14. Learn how to use both your weakness and strength to your best interest…
15. Reach higher, aim higher, understand deeper, and bow lower…
16. Give a 2nd /3rd/4th etc—chance to a person who betrays/disappoints you…people made mistakes…
17. Remember 17 people that matters most in life…learn what connects them? What made them so special in life?
18. Remember that communication school, in a way, teaches that there’s at least a motif behind every act of communication.
19. While you’re YOUNG…at least once in ur life: wear a red-light lipstick…a black thong… a gold stiletto and a red-hot-bold-gown… (you say: dooohhh…why should I?) Because when you’re 80, though you want to, you don’t have the right to wear them ^_*
20. Remember that we must do what we have to do in order to do what we want to do.
21. Restating the number 1 on this list: if you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them (-Dalai Lama).
22. Smile! Smile like you’ve never been hurt.
23. I love this quote: "Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option." - Sania Makki
24. Choose 10 most important and urgent things from this list (as inspired by Steven Covey’s first thing first formula), and do it in 2010 …save some for 2011…ha ha ha…
25. Last … learn to put a period on sentences…


-WH, JUST someone…who really likes sharing through her fingers-

DO you love yourself?

Dari kecil kita terbiasa ditanya : ‘kamu sayang Papa ngga?’ atau ‘kamu sayang mama ngga?’, tapi ngga pernah/jarang ditanya: ‘kamu sayang diri kamu sendiri?’ … mungkin akibatnya many people grow to be a people pleaser…they spend their life searching for approvals; their happiness and sorrow moments depend much to whether others approve them or not.

Man…we’re not born with labels… but along the way… we make labels for each other, and if u fall for that label thing…that’s it…u’ll never be satisfy.

Sebetulnya orang yang pertama kali harus kita sayangin itu diri kita sendiri dulu, baru kita bisa ngerti kata-kata: “sayangi orang lain seperti kamu mengasihi dirimu sendiri”. Menurut saya bohong besar kalau kita bilang kita bisa bahagia dan kita bisa sayang sama orang lain kalau kita ngga sayang sama diri sendiri.

So… here I am…asking myself…: “do you love yourself?” and my answer is: “Yes I do…so much…I used to hate myself and have a messy life, but since He touches my life, I love myself and everything around me changes since then. Saya masih punya masalah, tapi masalah-masalah itu ngga saya anggap sebagai sesuatu yang ribet banget. It’s a problem…that’s it… it’ll pass; sama aja kayak malam yang selalu berakhir dan diganti dengan pagi.

As long as I am given a chance to live every new morning, then I have hope… where there’s life there’s hope. As long as God grant me a healthy mind and body… I call that as blessings.

I was once an addict complainer… I could just whine about everything (my hair, my friends, my family, my man, even the air that I breathe…) but… every sinner has a future, and now I’m making mine. Ngga tepat banget kalau saya mengeluh, apalagi saya tinggal di Indonesia yang masyarakatnya punya banyak masalah, mulai dari rendahnya tingkat pendidikan, kemiskinan, korupsi, masalah kepercayaan diri bangsa, dll; how could I complain about eating too many calories from a slice of expensive cake while there are people living around me having no calorie to be burn for their energy to do daily chores?? (makanya…buat saya, proses banget nih…biar ngga ngeluh terutama untuk hal-hal kecil).

Btw… Sri Mulyani bilang gini (Intisari, September 2009): “…makanya saya paling takut mengeluh. Takut orang akan mengatakan, “Enggak tahu diri banget nih orang.” Makanya kalau mau mengeluh dengan diri sendiri saja, di kamar mandi..”>>> tips dari Sri Mulyani, siapa tahu berguna buat kita juga.

Menurut saya mengeluh itu dimulai dari ketidakpuasan kita terhadap diri sendiri, kita mungkin kurang sayang sama diri sendiri, atau kurang menghargai diri sendiri.

Harusnya sih, kita belajar puas DALAM segala hal yang ada di diri kita dan di hidup kita, sambil terus berusaha memperbaiki diri tanpa perlu membenci diri sendiri, who are we to judge ourselves? God wants us not to judge people, and the definition of people includes: ourselves in it.
-WH- dalam proses supaya selalu bersyukur.